Our resident fit mummas insights into prepping for the arrival of baby! (Part 2)
Posted on 24 May 2016
BEING OPEN TO CHANGE
I’ve gone into both of my birthing experiences with the solid belief that I could and would do this. I have hoped and planned for natural births both times. I have never faulted in my self belief, or my wishes that this is what I wanted and was going to do. This takes a lot of quiet confidence, mental strength, power and vulnerability.
This all being said, I have always remained open (in the back of my mind) that this may not eventuate. Sometimes things just don’t go according to plan. I’ve remained open to the possibility that at some point I may require a CS, or an epidural, or some pain relief, and some stitches. This hasn’t happened, but it is important to trust in those around you, and to have the knowledge that first and foremost they are going to have your back. Yes, respect your birthing preferences, but help you to get your baby out in a way that is safe to you and your bub.
The mothers body AND the baby, need to work as one at all twists and turns for a natural birth to occur. There is no right or wrong. You are no less a woman if you end up in the operating theatre or with an epidural. Have a plan, but be open to change!
OK, so all that theorising is great, BUT, what do you tell yourself in the actual birth? How do you get yourself through the day/days?
Here are some of the sentiments/beliefs I’ve focused on in the past. Start thinking about these things as you face the last few magical weeks of your pregnancy. Revel in yourself and the amazing body you have. Admire the fact that you already are a beautiful Mama, just waiting to meet your baby who is coming for you!
- My body is opening. Loosen up, let go of pain (thightening up will hold onto pain)
- Prepare for a long/hard day/s at work
- Birthing can be very difficult
- Strength is different to toughness, you have immense strength
- Everything I need to be able to do this is already within me
- Pain is good pain – pain means action
- MATCH the pain
- Every surge I am closer
- Feel the power, feel it go
- This is a natural process
- There may be: nausea, vomiting, fever, shaking, sweating and overwhelming sensations. You’ve got this.
- Let go, get gutsy!
- Visualise what the baby is doing
- Think about seeing baby for the first time
- Dream about holding baby for the first time
- Pain with purpose, pain is bringing your baby closer
- BIG stress needs BIG expression
- BIG surges need BIG action
- BIG I can’t (s) need BIG I can’s
- Stay in the FLOW
- Stay in the ZONE
- Stay in the MOMENT
- Stay CONFIDENT
- Have no INHIBITION
- Be: REALISITC, CALM, FLEXIBLE, OPEN, DETERMINED.
- Let go – be soft, be open. BREATHE.
- Let baby be born.
I am HUMAN
I am ENOUGH
I am STRONG
I am LOVE
I am POWERFUL BEYOND MEASURE